Father's realization.

Yesterday  one father called me to say that he never read anything about autism or went to any appointments until his wife had to go out of town  for a funeral. Left home with their child, he came to a realization of what her everyday life was really like, and he began to take a different attitude. He wants to read about autism, go to meetings and requested me to organise a workshop on autism.

Dear mothers.... if you want your partner to know more about your child.. here is an idea.Take a day out..... just joking

Everyone deals with parenthood differently, and this difference may be even more pronounced in a family with a child who has special needs. It is very usual for one or both parents to become immersed in the world of special needs after the diagnosis of a child.
 
1.If you are not getting supportiveness of your husband does not necessarily mean an unwillingness to do so. Give him time to get to know your child in his own way and at his own pace.
2.Keep your husband informed about your son and what you learn about him and his special needs.
3. Continue to encourage positive family interaction as much as possible.
4.You can certainly let your husband know how his lack of involvement or interest makes you feel; but no accusations please.
5.You may feel somewhat resentful at times that you are the one doing all of the work here, but cheer up yourself.
6. If your husband has a particularly hard time accepting your son’s diagnosis then some counseling or therapy could be helpful. But first try to gently nudge him along and to talk to him about your feelings and his with regard to your son. Perhaps things can begin to move on from there.
 
 
 

needs

The other day I was talking to students of our school. I was asking some of the questions related to thier curriculum, just to test how much they are absorbing the inputs. One question of mine was " What are our basic needs? With out them we can not live."  I expected food, house and clothing as answers.

Answers are as below:
school
dance teacher
text books
play
uniform
computers
sridevi madam(WOW...)
school van/auto
teacher
physiotherapy
school day
colouring
music
behaviour wheel gifts
school prayer

I was speechless. First and foremost feeling of children is " without school they can not live".They like school so much because it is thier comfort zone. They understand that every one in this world has problems and there are solutions.

I am sorry... none of them said.. Mother,father,sister,brother.....

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A big bag of tricks

A long wait at the doctor's office, slow service at a restaurant. an endless car ride that are the moments where a tantrum is coming on fast, but can still be diverted. These are the times when parents need a big "bag of tricks" -- a deep supply of items and ideas that can fill a moment.
While a "bag of tricks" comes in handy with any child, it's particularly essential for children with special needs, who are often significantly less able to control themselves. Planning ahead can help.
Some of the items in your "bag of tricks" will be actual items, stuff you keep in your purse or pockets for emergencies.  Some possibilities:
• Toy cars
• Deck of cards
• Flash cards
• Little notepad and pen
• Finger puppets
• Keys
• Coins
• Photos
• Hard candy
• Small storybook
• Puzzle book
• Raisins
• Animal crackers
• Crayons
• Stickers


As your child gets older, changes interests, gets bored with some things and taken by others, you'll want to keep changing and replenishing the goodies in your "bag."
All the best dear parents. Share your bag of tricks to engage children in need.

"Three C's

While dealing with our children, it is important to remember the “Three C’s.”

1. Clarity of Expectations: Keep rules and expectations simple, concise and clear. Make sure they are easily understood by the child.
2. Consistency: Follow through with consequences in a consistent manner.
3. Calmness: Approach situations calmly. Take a deep breath and make sure you are in control. Take a brief “time-out” if you need to get a better hold over your emotions. Children are especially sensitive if we lose our temper. A calm approach is most effective and won’t overstimulate the child or escalate the situation.

potty training

potty training

Children with special needs can be notoriously difficult to toilet train, for a host of reasons ranging from medical conditions to developmental delays to sensory insensitivity to stubborn temperament.The world is full of opinions on when children should be trained. If you are pushing the potty and your child is resisting, ask yourself if you’re doing this because you truly believe he or she is ready, or because your mother/mother-in-law/sibling/co-worker/daycare is nagging at you.
 Before you decide to pick this particular fight, keep in mind the following factors.

 

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Pongal Greetings

Focus on today

"Will my child ever have a normal life? What will the future bring? How do we prepare for that?" These are questions that plague parents of children with special needs. And they're not bad questions -- our kids need us to plan for their future and do everything to make sure that they will be safe and secure and cared for. 

But it's too easy to slip into a mode of worrying constantly about the future while  missing an opportunity to really love and appreciate our kids where they are, right now, right in front of us. 

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Saaburi entered into project Whole Child

It is pleasure to announce that Saaburi Clinic for Special Needs has been selected as research agency for international project "Whole Child". This project will enable parents and professionals to perceive the developmental issues in detail. We are excited about it and busy collecting materials for the activities.

easy to plan

One of my fovourite plan for figuring out which behaviours to choose and which let by:
Three baskets:
one for things that are truly nonnegotiable
one for things that are important but allow for some compromise;
one for things that just aren't important enough to make a scene over.
The first basket should be the smallest, and the last the largest.
Think of the things you fight with your child over.
Could any of them get tossed in the second or third baskets?

observe your child

Something's just not right. You know it in your head, your heart, the pit of your stomach. Your child isn't developing like other kids. But you're afraid that giving a name to your fears and putting a label on your child will make things real that you'd love to believe are imaginary. How do you find the strength to move from suspicion to certainty? And even after a diagnosis is given, how can you accept that this is your child's fate? Seeking a diagnosis for a child is one of the hardest things that parents can do. It means putting aside dreams of one kind of life for your child and setting off down another path. But fear and denial don't help your child. Getting the proper diagnosis and treatment does.
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Notes for parents and teachers

Raising children with special needs requires such an enormous degree of guesswork, instinct, making the best of bad options,etc. Wouldn’t it be great to have operating instructions -- clear indications of which choices will work out best, which attitudes will help and which will hinder, how to steer young lives in a way that will make for strong and successful adults? Wouldn’t it be great?  Let us find out or create such manuals together. Will you be with me? Keep reading the page sharing zone.

My first post to welcome you

Dear parents, friends and well wishers,
Welcome to our blog! We have had very busy term settling into new school and my job became so busy that sometimes it is hard to get together or even talk on the phone. Maybe we can communicate on various topics through this blog. Be sure to make this a bookmark and follow this blog so you can stay up to date on the things going on  at school.